By: Shen Weijian, Wang Ying, Yu Yun, Fan Caoqi, Li Jie, Fang Xiaoning, Zhou Wei, Zhu Xuanhui, Chang Siyu (Email:firstname.lastname@example.org)
Lesbian means a woman who is sexually attracted by another woman. In the late 19th Century, some sexologists published their researches on the same-sex desire and behavior, indicating the lesbian was a separate entity in western culture. Actually, till now, many countries have permitted the existence of gays or lesbians, but this does not mean they have had the right to get married. In this case, some western countries enacted a law to support homosexual marriage. While in China, this issue is a bit more sensitive. Not all are blessed, and the lesbians’ future is a question worth thinking about. The same thing also happens in our campus.
Recently, two of my girlfriends broke up. ‘A’ was a junior, ‘B’ was a sophomore. They met at the Student’s Association. At that time, ‘B’ just broke up with her boyfriend, and she was in a bad mood all that time! Girl A was humorous and approachable and with a soft heart, which brought a sliver lining to ‘B’.
‘B’ was attracted by A deeply. After a short time, they fell in love with each other. They had a good time for one year. However, when A became a senior, she began to worry about this relationship. Actually, in the depths of her heart, she was conservative. She was scared of being discriminated and ostracized by others and was worried about her future as well as their future. In consideration of these, she wanted to give up and find a new boyfriend, and then, hold a normal marriage.
We showed respect to lesbians, because it is about the love issue. Love does harm to nobody but the lovers themselves. I feel sorry for the girl who chose to break up with her girlfriend and marry a man. We don’t know whether she will regret it one day! We suppose she will, because she left the girl she really loved and married a man she had no feelings for! She will find it is difficult to go through life with a person she did not love.
This couple of lesbians should get up the courage to face their unique love, to face their future, and to solve difficulties together. Though, we showed respect to the lesbians, it does not mean we will accept it. We think it is a kind of psychological problem, influenced by their surroundings and affecting their sexual orientation. When it comes to their future, they may overcome great difficulties to live together. As controversial the issue is, they have a long way to go…
F: 60% support lesbianism. They say lesbians should have freedom and be brave to face society.
40% do not support lesbianism. Even, they say they will not make friends with a lesbian any more when they find out a girl is gay.
M: 70% support lesbianism. They say they will support them as usual. At the same time, they think lesbians will not change their sexual orientation when they have to break up.
30% do not support it. They think they will not fall in love with the girl who once was a lesbian.
80% do not support lesbianism. They even think it is a psychological illness. They think lesbians defy moral laws. They will stop lesbianism in life.
20% support lesbianism. They think everyone should respect their freedom and make their best wishes for females.
(For shortage of time, we did a simple survey in the form of questionnaire. According to their age and response, we gave these numbers. Additionally, in order to make the data more accurate, we consulted the Internet as reference afterwards. )
Therefore, some solutions should be taken: firstly, the government can make laws to ensure their love and make them develop smoothly. Secondly, they can go abroad, after all foreigners are more open than Chinese. Thirdly, society can promote the lesbian in the positive side to make the public understand them and not discriminate them. Fourthly, the lesbian themselves should be confident. They themselves shouldn’t be shameful of this problem.
The followings are my suggestions: the lesbians should face the realistic problems bravely. It is what they can’t avoid. Marriage is the course of two families. You must take the family’s feelings into consideration and get allowances, even best wishes, from them.
Nowadays, lesbians are burdening too much pressure from all perspectives. It is suggested that they can go to have some talk with psychological doctors to help them release their stress.
That’s to say, find an outlet for your confusion, fears, anger inside. Some lesbian’s committee or club can be considered to be established, in which lesbians can talk to those who have the same topic. Moreover, they can learn from each other about how they solve the similar problems.
With the increasing opening degree of society, actually more and more people will accept the special group of ‘lesbians’ and regard it as normal. However, of course, a lot of people are still against them and hold negative attitudes for them, especially in China. In this case, we talked about today; we can hardly judge who is right or wrong. Love is sweet, but the pressure we will take from this kind of love is really heavy. To some extent, this is a hard way for lesbians to find a balance between love and life. But we can change our attitude to them and show our support for them. Life is hard, for lesbians, much worse!
We think that being homosexual is completely normal. Firstly, whatever you are a gay
or lesbian, it is just a matter of sexual orientation and you have no fault. According to Freud’s psychological investigation, everyone in society has a bisexual trend, that is to say, people who have bisexual trend may account for almost the whole proportion of social population. Therefore, it is actually normal to be a gay or lesbian. Secondly, many homosexuals are in pain because the so-called ethics and family interests. Some of them choose surrender. They marry with opposite-sex and have a child, but only a few people can really love his or her spouse and hold a happy marriage, most of them feel blue all their life. Thirdly, the legislation of homosexual in many countries has proved that the matter of homosexual is not a weird thing but a normal one. Now that we are in a fair and open society in which people have their own right to choose their love, the respect should be showed to them. In this case, being homosexual is an inevitable trend.