By: Yin Huahong, Ding Huimin, XuXuhong, Jin Ni, Jia Min and Yu Jing; Photo by Xu Hudong
According to some students, they complained that many lovers even a couple of guys hugged and kissed in the library, which made them feel disgusted and abhorrent. One day, we saw two guys hugging tightly and were kissing recklessly at the corner of the library, ignoring others who were focusing on their study around them. It wasn’t easy to figure out why they were so shameless to show their affinity squarely in public. When it comes to this point, with a chuckle, someone jokes that in most cases and perhaps they just can’t control their feelings and affection for each other. Thus they just do what they wanted to do anywhere, no matter how others will think.
Students in the universities are often active and energetic. And most of them start to try their first love on campus after the high pressure and prejudice by falling in love in middle school. It is good for them to have a try. However, having intimate contact in public is not appropriate.
As far as we are concerned, the intimate contact between lovers in public would not only disturb others, but also have bad effect on the image of the school. Most people besides the lovers would feel uncomfortable and sensible for this behavior. As for these single people like us, this behavior is kind of showing-off. In addition, when other conservative people like parents see this phenomenon, they would be surprised and angry because they send their children here to study and not love.
To know other’s opinions about the thing that lovers kiss in library, we interviewed some people on campus.
A girl in the teaching building [here in Xianlin] accepted our interview.
She said, ＂I think that kissing in the library is immoral. However, almost every time I study inlibrary, I can see lovers kissing or hugging. Sometimes, I sit around a desk which has four seats. The lovers sit in front of me. They talk and laugh without thinking about others’ feelings. As you know the library is a place for study, not for love. They can choose another place to date. In fact, kissing in the library makes me very disgusted.＂
However, another girl had a different opinion, ＂I think they can do intimate behavior in corners in library. As long as they don’t have a bad influence on others, I don’t oppose to the behavior of kissing in the library.” She said.
To sum up, different people have different comments on intimate behavior in the library. But they both think that the library is a place for study, the lovers’ behavior shouldn’t affect others’ study.
One of our interviewees offered a suggestion that the library can educate their freshmen in order to let them know that it needs every readers’ efforts to create a health, comfortable environment. It is also necessary to put up some signs on the wall. The staff of library also can put on some portraits and catchphrases of the world famous people on both sides of the corridor.
Another said that there can be more activities which aim at arousing these persons’ awareness on caring for other hard-working students. The immoral behavior should be exposed. What’s more, the school can set up some school pub, KTV and other kinds of social contact places. It will be easier for these lovers to find their places without bothering others.
According to this phenomenon, there are some solutions: firstly, the students’ instructors should tell them the harm of the intimate behaviors in public; especially, in the libraries and classrooms. Secondly, the students themselves should have the consciousness of morality and shame. Doing such kind of intimate behaviors in public, not only can damage their images, but also can bother others. In the libraries and some other places for students to study, that kind of behavior will disturb the other students’ studying. Some of the behaviors are secret, so we can just ignore them and pay attention to our studies.Thirdly, the libraries should also attach some signs to make the students aware of intimate behaviors in libraries. Finally, the universities can also open more tea cafes, which can offer good places for the lovers to date, and also it will not bother others studying; meanwhile, the universities can earn money.
In general, there is nothing wrong for lovers to date and express their love to each other. And students are more likely to do this. But, considering our culture, which is kind of conservative, many people can’t accept this and feel uncomfortable seeing these intimate behaviors in front of them. As many students think, especially those studying in the libraries, these lovers shouldn’t behave too closely in public and also should be considerate about others feelings. This is not only disturbing others but also having bad effects on their own image. But, for these students who study in the library, they can try to concentrate more on their own work and neglect these lovers. At present, there’s no such a quick and effective way to stop this phenomenon. The ultimate solution lies in these lovers themselves—to be more self-disciplined. Only by this way, will the campus be more harmonious. And there is still a long way to go!