By: SongMengYa, WangLei, LiRui, FengYang, HengXueYing and YangSuYun (From Nanjing University of Finance & Economics English Department)
To do a research on whether students should marry when they graduate from school, my partners and I had interviews with people in our university this morning. Firstly, we interviewed one female students, she said marriage was of great importance in that it can build better relationship. Secondly, we met one woman and she thought her child must get married. Next, we interviewed one man and his opinion was that it was freedom to get married. Then, we asked one male teacher if he thought that when people met the probable one, he or she should get married. Lastly, Matthew told us that marriage was just one personal decision. In conclusion, I hold that everyone has the right to choose whether they get married or not, just depending on their own condition.
From my group, we all think that people should get married no matter when they are ready. And we feel the importance of marriage to the person from a very hot topic “Nowadays, lots of young Chinese do believe ‘omiai’ (blind date).” From another point of view, for the Chinese marriage is a symbol of stability and responsibility. And for our parents, marriage means that they don’t need to worry about us anymore. Because we find a person who wants to take care of us and will stay with us to the end of our lives! So our perception is that marriage is an indispensable part to our whole life.
In order to know more, we interviewed some students in our campus to find some special answers. We have mainly interviewed with four types of people: the Chinese parents, college students, the Chinese teachers and foreign teachers.
When asked this question, the Chinese parents seemed to be very conscientious, they agreed that young people should get married when they have to, because they regard a family is the final and best choice for a young generation.
However, college students are more unwilling to say something on this topic, a girl who is not willing to tell us her name, said to us, she is afraid of thinking about marriage, for lacking in economic basis and having no boyfriend. They prefer to be single, in which case freedom would be easily available.
Same question when asked to Mr. Li, a Chinese college professor, he smiled at us, said, “I really don’t understand why more and more young people choose not to get married when they have steady jobs, and that their parents seem not be that worried about such matter.”
Interestingly, when we met the foreign teacher Matthew during the break time, he gave his knowledge about the phenomenon to us, “maybe for one thing, the young are under great pressure shortly after their graduation, like we know, it would cost a family a great sum of money to prepare for a marriage, especially for those common families. For another thing, many Chinese young people are holding a more widely open attitude towards marriage, they would like to get married in their 30s, even 40s and that’s understandable. But American teacher Matthew said that he doesn’t care too much about it because he thinks that it is a personal decision. So the issue is related with people’s different nationalities.
Anyway, it’s a personal affair. Final question for Matthew, what would you do if your children refuse to get married.
Matthew responded naturally, “Okay, first of all, I hope my children lead a happy life, second, I respect any decision they made on their own.”
And we interviewed student Li. She is looking forward to a romantic marriage which could bring her a better relationship. You can see happiness and shyness from her expression.
However, the senior Zhang felt stressed because her parents urge her to get married next year. When she told us about this, she appeared upset! We also interviewed some middle-aged people. It’s obvious that they think people should marry. However, when referring to their children’s marriage, they said they will be understanding, but worried if their children won’t marry. It deserves to be mentioned that we also interviewed two teachers. One was Chinese teacher, Su Zhen who gave a definitely ‘YES!’ to the answer to our question.
Through the interview, we can draw the conclusion that the majority of the people will marry in the future. But the age they want to marry is late. The average age is 28. There are lots of reasons for wanting to get married. But the main trend is outside influence, such as: their friends, their parent and so on. Most of them prefer to find their classmates and workmates as wives or husbands… When we ask about the question about what is their opinion about blind date, they said that they did not reject the idea. They said they respect that way and maybe in the future they will also choose this way. In addition, to the people who do not want to get married in the future, most of the interviewees do respect this kind of choice. They thought everyone had the right to choose their life.